Love is sweet, but dating in Nigeria? Mehnnnn, it’s chaotic.
People don’t even hide their red flags anymore, they wear them like agbada. If you’re currently navigating the trenches, here are 12 warning signs from the universe to block, delete, and FLEE before it’s too late.
1. “Let’s just see how it goes”
Omoooo
They are there for vibes and are likely keeping their options open.
Imagine having to ask “what are we?”
God abegggg
No intentions, no plans, you’re just a convenience.
2. Always “Too Busy” to Meet Up
They’re constantly unavailable but somehow you see them always online.
At this point my dear, Open your eyes
You’re not a priority rara.
People make time for who they care about.
3. Still ‘Besties’ with Their Ex
My brother!
My sister!
RUN
This is RED FLAG IN BOLD.
Bestie keh?
It’s a triangular romantic situationship.
4. They Never Post You, But Post Everything Else
You’ve dated bae/boo for 8 months but you’re still “my baby for life” in private.
Dem neva post you for public eyes.
Oh chim!
There are two ways to this, you’re either the sidepiece or the mainpiece, Or they’re hiding you..or hiding someone else.
5. They Gaslight for Sport
You catch them lying and they say “Wow, so you don’t trust me?”
You start apologizing for catching them. That’s emotional witchcraft.
Because why will they mess up and somehow make it your fault every time???
That’s toxic behavior.
6. Their Only Love Language Is ‘Soft Life’
They don’t bring anything to the table at allll.
Unless, of course, you want to count the bare minimum affection, and excessive bills you are met with as love.
In that case, congrats, you’re not in a relationship, you’re in a sponsorship.
And let’s be clear: love shouldn’t come with a price tag. Not even a discounted one.
7. They’re Overly Jealous or Controlling
“Who were you with?”
“Why did you like that guy’s post?”
Ahannnn
As how nauuuu?
This type of possessiveness isn’t cute o, it’s insecurity.
8. They’re All Talk, No Action
These ones are Joseph the dreamer.
You’ll get promises of trips, gifts, or future plans that never materialize?
You’re dating a dreamer, not a doer.
9. They’re Always Flirting Online
If they’re constantly dropping heart emojis and “Hey beautiful” in comment sections, they’re probably not ready to commit.
They are still for the streets.
10. Their Friends and Family Don’t Know You Exist
If you’ve been dating for months and still haven’t met anyone in their circle, it is well with you.
Meanwhile you know all their friends’ birthdays.
You are a secret, just walk away abeg at this point.
11. Everything Turns Into a Debate
You say “I feel hurt,” they say “You’re too emotional.”
You can’t come to an agreement with them, you must sha argue.
This one isn’t looking for love, they’re looking for a courtroom session
12. You’re Always Tired, Anxious or Overthinking
Sometimes, your gut knows before your brain does.
Love is not always soft, but it should never feel like a constant war. If you’re constantly on edge, you’re not in love, you’re in battle.
If something feels off, trust your instincts.
Here’s It…
Red flags don’t mean “try harder.” They mean leave faster. If you saw yourself in more than 3 of these…
Just know, you deserve peace. And plantain chips.
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