1. Be a really good listener
Guys don't just love a shoulder to lean on, they also love a good ear. This way he'll tell you things he wouldn't tell his mainchick and you can slowly ease your way into his life
2. Don't be too clingy, show him your worth
Please for the love of Christ don't be blowing up his phone every minute or showing up everywhere he is! Give him enough space to pursue you and show him that even though you're the sidechick, you still know your worth sister!
3. Be a fun-loving person
Chances are his current relationship is already boring, that's why you're his sidechick in the first place. Now the trick here is to be an adventurous person ALL DAY, EVERYDAY! no dull moments even for a second! By doing this he'll start to wonder why his mainchick isn't like you and begin to question their relationship.
4. Your sense of humor has to be LIT!!!
See ehn, I don't care if you have to start reading books or watching documentaries in order to become wiser, but girl if you have a great sense of humor that can make any man laugh and engage with you on any level, trust me your boyfriend's girlfriend won't stand a chance against you. You'll instantly become his happy place and he'll keep coming back to you for more!
5. Be friends with the mainchick
This one is a bit tricky but you need to be smart about it. Make acquaintances with the mainchick and come off as just another random chick who's friends with her bf. This way the aunty won't suspect anything or perceive you as a threat. But you need to be subtle about it and not get too close to her. Just hello/hi is fine. No need for any fake deep friendship so that by the time you become the mainchick, it won't look like it's your fault.
6. Text/Call him whenever he's with the mainchick
This one works like magic because chances are your boyfriend won't want to take your calls or reply your texts whenever he's with her. But the more you keep texting whenever they're together, the more the mainchick will start suspecting him. If he denies anything is going on between the two of you, she will suspect him more, become paranoid and start nagging. And you know guys hate nags. LOL
7. Start doing all the things the mainchick isn't doing and multiply by 2
Whatever it is that he complains his mainchick isn't doing enough of or isn't doing at all, please feel free to do them and add extra. Bring out his best self and massage his ego so that he begins to think you're his God-sent. Afterall, you're only being a good friend right?
8. Let your sex game be LIT AF!!
This one is major key! Don't let anyone deceive you by saying "sex will not keep a man". Trust me if the sex is fire, he'll forget you're the sidechick and moan your name during sex with the mainchick...and you know what will happen afterwards right?
9. Understand that you're not the only girl in his life but feel free to act like you are
Don't give him room to mention his mainchick whenever you guys are together. Give him an ultimatum. Make him choose between you and his mainchick, and if he's being indecisive, threaten to break up with him for good sis. You don't need that kind of negativity in your life. Once he sees how serious you are, he'll be forced to make you official.
10. LEAVE HIM ALONE!! GO AND FIND YOUR OWN BOYFRIEND!!
Just look at you. So your 2018 goal is to snatch somebody's boyfriend? May God forgive you!
I'm in my house come and beat me.