So, you thought you were just in a relationship, minding your business, enjoying the talking stage (or at least what’s left of it).
But somehow, without a ring, without an official proposal, you’ve unofficially become our wife.
The signs are everywhere.
If you can relate to most of these, sis, just accept it, you’re deep in the “our wife” trenches.
1. Your Name Has Been Replaced
You had a name, but apparently, it’s no longer valid. His mom calls you our wife, his siblings call you our wife, even his friends who barely know you now refer to you as our wife.
You could literally introduce yourself with your full government name, and someone would correct you: “No o, you’re our wife.”
You sef you don’t mind the man, our wife!
2. You Are the Conflict Resolver
His friends start fighting, someone is beefing his younger brother, and somehow, you are now in charge of fixing it.
Congratulations, you’re now the official Minister of Peace and Conflict Resolution for his entire circle.
You feel so excited that they think you’re that important to bring family crisis to you. Happiness wan finish you
3. His Family Feeds You Information—Without Asking
One day, his mom casually calls you to discuss her neighbor’s marriage issues like you’re supposed to solve them.
Another day, his sister texts you about a dress she wants to buy. You never asked, but suddenly, you’re deeply involved in their personal lives.
You feel like a woman of the house already; everyone needs your opinion. You cannot wait to finally be one of them.
Abeg, make we tell am, abi make we face front before motor jam us?
4. You Have a Seat at the Family Table
You go over to his house, and nobody treats you like a guest anymore.
His younger brother is asking you where the car keys are. His mom is discussing family matters with you.
The household runs like you’re already Mrs., except you’re not.
You can even enter the kitchen and boil 6 eggs, yet no would query you!
In your mind, you’re his wife already but it’s been five years of waiting for him to pop the question.
Wetin dey occur, our wife?
5. Financial Requests Are Rolling In
Nobody ever asked you for money when you were new. But now, his younger cousin suddenly has pressing school fees, his mom has urgent needs, and someone’s birthday is coming up.
They may not ask directly, but they drop hints like our wife is supposed to contribute.
You’re more than willing to oblige and that’s why they love you! If your boyfriend drops 2k, you drop 10k! odogwu spender!
6. People Around You Know He Might Never Marry You
Your friends have started dropping subtle warnings like, “Are you sure he’s serious?” His own friends joke about how he’s not the marrying type.
Even his mom, who calls you our wife, has never once mentioned wedding plans.
The signs are there, but are you ready to see them?
Despite everything, the ring? Missing in action. The proposal? Nowhere to be found. You have assumed full wife duties with zero wife benefits.
The question is, will you resign, or embrace your new title?
