Because love may be blind, but your sanity shouldn’t be
Let’s face it, dating or marrying an actor looks sweet from the outside: the Red carpets, the glitz and glam, the Paparazzi & blogs, cute Instagram posts, and maybe even a feature on their next Netflix series. But ah, my dear, before you go and fall in love with a popular person in Nollywood, let me tell you why marrying an actor might really not be your cup of tea.
1. They Can Kiss for Africa
Firstly, If jealousy is your middle name, marrying an actor is really not for you. Imagine your partner being the love interest in almost every movie, omo, your overthinking alarm will go into overdrive.
Let’s paint a picture for you: One minute you are celebrating your anniversary or a milestone in your relationship, and the next minute you are stumbling upon a new movie trailer with your spouse as the main character passionately lip-locking someone else in 4K – with angles, soft music and fierce passion.
Talk true, jealousy will catch you and the worst part is that you can’t do anything about it because you are meant to be their biggest supporter and las las, “It’s all acting”.
So stir clear if your mind no go fit carry am.
2. Location, Location, Always on Location
You are in here dreaming of Sunday evening strolls around the estate, games night for two, and breakfast in bed, but your partner is out there shooting a five-week film titled ‘Love is not Dead.’ Omo, the struggle is real!
Today, they are filming in Abeokuta, on set in Asaba next week, Dubai shoot in two weeks, the location schedule may never ends< em> (especially when they are a big name in the industry). Now, with all this location movement, if your love language is quality time, prepare to be starved.
Anyways, if you decide to stay or shook your head inside the relationship, you may need to make sacrifices: I am talking about surprise visits to the movie sets, spontaneous date nights, the list goes on, and when they finally come home to you, please do make every moment count.
3. They Live in the Limelight
There’s no such thing as a private life when you are married or in a relationship with a public figure. Nancy Isime buys a house, it trends. Timini Egbuson frowns on set, and blogs are analyzing his mood.
Now imagine being their partner, you both have officially become a public property. Wedding anniversaries? Public matter. Baby bump? Trending topic. Small misunderstanding? “Sources close to the couple have confirmed that…” You can’t even change your hairstyle in peace or make a facial expression at their event without conspiracy theories flying everywhere.
If you are a naturally private person or an introvert, buckle up. Because once the spotlight is on, it has no off switch but I believe if you chose them, you will have the strength to brave it all together.
4. Events Back to Back Like Beyoncé’s Cowboy Carter Tour
Saturday: Movie premiere.
Sunday: AMVCA nominees dinner.
Tuesday: Album listening.
Thursday: Pop-up event.
Friday: Party with Ebuka.
Marrying an actor means you are also marrying a never-ending guest list and if your spouse is the type that loves “showing off their partner”, forget rest, your new life is now one of constant outings.
Just sit back and watch yourself go from “I am an indoor person” and “I don’t like crowds” to “Pass my shoes, we are already late.”
You might think it’s cute at first… until you get so tired you have to make an official decision to let them enjoy the life of their head while you enjoy your quiet “Netflix & chill”.
5. They Spend Like It’s an International Fashion Show
Repeat outfit? Heaven forbid.
Uber to the event? Never.
Your celebrity partner wants to arrive in a red range rover with tinted windows, styled by Swanky Jerry, face beat by BM Pro. And you? You just wanted gala and a drink. But you are now budgeting like you are planning the London Fashion Week every two weeks.
Marriage to an actor means being financially, emotionally, and aesthetically ready. But you have got this!
Additionally, just because I am now your love doctor, this is a lirru bonus:
Note to self, their DMs is a no-go area
If you ever mistakenly stumble upon their inbox? Take heed and run but if you decide not to, omo, you will have to brace yourself like a seatbelt because the number of messages in there will humble you, vex you and leave you flabbergasted at the audacity… From “Hey fine boy, I can act too ” “Beautiful angel!” to “I’m ready to be wifey number 2.”
However, I know it’s not easy but you are strong and na you dey by their side, mafo!
So, with all these few points of mind, do you still want to marry an actor?
If yes, stand gidigba! Nobody can stain your white. Let your love flow, shine bright like a diamond and enjoy the life of you head.
If no, well, what can I say!? Anyways, welcome to the club!
P.S:The word actor here refers to both male and female professionals in the film and TV industry. Yes, actress is a thing, but “actor” is now widely used as the gender-neutral industry term.
