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Omo, this question heavy pass amala after church service. Moving in with your partner, whether your boo, your love interest, or your “spec,” is a big deal for Naija. Before you jump into the lagoon of cohabitation, let’s talk.
First things first, forget oyibos and their “one size fits all” advice. Every relationship, every couple, different. What works for Aunty Ngozi and Uncle Emeka won’t work for you and your fine babe. So, park one side all those “must date for two years” rules.
Instead, think Naija-style:
You know each other well-well? Don’t be like Amaka wey rush move in with Chinedu after three months, only to find out he snores like a hippo and leaves dirty dishes everywhere. Spend time together, see their “village side,” and make sure una vibes align before you pack your Ankara suitcase.
Money matter plenty. Talk finances clear and open. Who pays rent? Who handles groceries? What about NEPA bills and gen fuel? Abeg, no wahala later because someone no contribute enough for “soup money.”
Family wahala is real. Will your parents be cool with it? Will your partner’s family judge you for “living in sin”? Talk things out with your fam and be prepared for any potential drama. Remember, respect is key.
Your village people are watching: Make sure you’re both ready for the whispers and side-eyes. This na Naija, after all. Thick skin go help you pass this level.
But wait, It’s not all bad! Here’s the good part:
Sharing is caring. Imagine splitting rent, cooking delicious meals together, and gisting late into the night. Moving in can strengthen your bond and make life sweeter.
Level up your “chop life” game. No more trekking long distances for dates. You can Netflix and chill, have movie nights with friends, and build a life together.
Personal space still important. Don’t forget to carve out some “me time.” Go see your friends, pursue your hobbies, and avoid becoming a clingy agbero.
Remember, this na your decision. Weigh the pros and cons, talk to trusted friends and family (but avoid those “village gossip queens”), and most importantly, listen to your heart (and your head). If it feels right, then take the plunge. But if something feels off, don’t be forming James Bond. Wait until you’re truly ready.
Bonus tip: Before you move in, consider a “trial run.” Spend a weekend or a week together at your place or theirs. This small test can reveal hidden habits and potential dealbreakers before you commit to a full-blown cohabitation adventure.
So, that’s your Naija guide to moving in with your boo. Remember, this is your journey, make it your own, and most importantly, enjoy the ride!
