Imagine this life that is already difficult. You’re still trying to figure out what you want for yourself, manage your personal issues, make money and somehow keep your head above water. Then you carry your stubborn coconut head and decide that what you need is to enter a throuple. A THROUPLE!
How does that even make sense? Make it make sense!
Two people are already in a relationship. They have chosen each other, built some level of intimacy and decided to open up their relationship to accommodate another person. And you, who probably have your own family issues, emotional baggage and personal struggles to deal with, now decide that joining this arrangement is the next big adventure.
Are you mad?
Why not go and find your own lover? Someone you can build something with, argue with, make memories with and possibly settle down with. Why volunteer to become an additional character in somebody else’s love story? Honestly, I have questions.
It Is a Demonic Behaviour, Actually
Let’s start with the obvious: why would you willingly put yourself in a romantic arrangement that already has two people involved? Love is already complicated with two people. Now imagine adding another person’s feelings, expectations, insecurities and needs to the mix.
Who is managing all these emotions?
Who gets priority?
What happens when two people disagree and the third person is caught in the middle?
And before anyone says it’s about communication, yes, communication matters. But does every complicated situation need to become your personal experiment? Some of us are simply trying to survive one relationship at a time.
It Doesn’t Make Sense at All
I genuinely want to understand the appeal. Two people are already together, and they decide they want to bring in someone else. What exactly is the third person signing up for?
Are you building a relationship with both people equally? Are you joining an existing partnership with its own history, inside jokes, routines and established boundaries? What happens when the original couple has disagreements? Where do you fit into all of that?
Of course, every relationship arrangement is different, and some people genuinely make it work. But for someone who wants a conventional, exclusive relationship, why volunteer for a setup that may not offer what you’re looking for?
Don’t Make Life More Difficult Than It Already Is
Life is already giving everybody assignments. There are bills to pay, careers to figure out, family expectations, personal growth and the everyday stress of simply existing in Nigeria.
Why add romantic complications to the list?
If you want love, affection, companionship and commitment, there is absolutely nothing wrong with looking for someone who wants the same things you do. You don’t have to squeeze yourself into an arrangement just because two people have decided to open their relationship.
Not every experience is worth having. Sometimes, the best decision you can make for your peace of mind is to leave certain situations alone.
And That’s On Me…
Anyway, perhaps I’m being too dramatic, but I genuinely cannot understand the appeal. There are already enough things competing for our attention. Must our love lives become a group project too?
If being in a throuple works for you, good for you. But personally, I’d rather find my own person and face the regular relationship wahala than volunteer for a romantic arrangement that requires a meeting to explain who is dating whom.
But what do you think? Would you ever consider being in a throuple, or is this one relationship arrangement you can never understand?
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