There’s a version of “sorry” that exists only in Nigerian households, and it has nothing to do with the actual word “sorry.” If you know, you know…
Your dad doesn’t say sorry. He just starts talking to you again like nothing happened, usually about something completely random, and you’re there looking at him like “No be this man just annoy me?” Now you’re forced to just respond and eventually forget the beef you guys just had.
That’s the apology, as in that’s the whole apology. You should know by now.
Your mum doesn’t say sorry either. She just appears in your room with a plate of food you didn’t ask for, at a time you weren’t expecting food, and puts it down without a word.
If you’re smart, you eat it and the beef is officially over. Because, if you’re waiting for an official “Sorry” you go wait tire ooo.
This is the language in Nigerian homes, and if you’re just finding out, get in! Let me tell you what you don’t know.
There are 3 Types of Apologies in African home, and if you don’t accept these, then you’re just looking for trouble.
1.The Food Apology:
Your favourite food sudden appears, served with enough plantain and meat. She might even throw in cold juice, and that’s exactly how you know that your mother has apologized. You better eat the food and squash the beef, because there’s no scenario where you win ooo.
2.The Chore Apology:
Suddenly your dad wants to help you carry something or fix something in your room he never noticed was broken until today.
It’s not about the broken thing, it’s about being in your space, doing something for you, without either of you naming what happened last week.
That’s your apology ooo, you better collect it and smile.
3.The “have you eaten” apology
A phone call from nowhere. They don’t call to talk about the fight, they just straight up ask “have you eaten,” said in a tone slightly softer than usual.
That softness is doing all the work.
That softness is the apology, that’s how you know that parent has repented and realized that they actually wronged you.
You on your own part will just accept the apology, because, like the Nigerian you are, you know it might never be sorry, but actions speak louder than words.
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