Eniola Lasaki
Besties, please move kulosa!
Has it ever occurred to many of us that 99% of relationship issues are caused by the sheer lack of communication???
Let me explain. So you’re mad at your partner but you don’t want to speak about it. Why? Because you expect them to know what the problem is. As per? Telepathy guru abi?
Oya let me burst your brain. What if after all the yanga, you find out that you are the problem?
Relax! Did you know that your current state of anger wouldn’t have escalated if only you had bore out your thoughts to your significant other?
I mean, the worse that could happen is that y’all air your thoughts, say hurtful things, and refuse to speak to each other for the rest of the day. Alright, don’t bite me. I agree that sucks!
But guess what, you just succeeded in speaking about the reason for your anger. This means that now, he has an idea about why your emotions were tampered with.
Maybe y’all aren’t speaking now, but soon enough, you’d find your way back to each other, talk things out and apologize. Shikena! Lobatan!!!
Do you know what else you need to get out of the way? Pride!
Yes, I know you have a lot of self-respect and wouldn’t compromise on specific standards you have set for yourself. But hey, yes, it’s you I’m speaking to. Have you ever heard the saying “It takes two to tango”? My point exactly.
For a relationship to work, you two must compromise and find a middle ground. Communicate more about your individual values and find out what works for both of you. And as you communicate, don’t also forget to be a good listener.
Let your partner know that they are being heard and that you love it when they open up to you. Make them feel comfortable around you. And please, don’t make things awkward by judging them.
You may also want to pattern out a healthy style of communication. One, in which, both parties can speak freely.
Below are a few practices;
- Set out a time that works for both of you
- Do not interrupt each other
- Admit when you are wrong
- Apologize whenever necessary
- Always focus on the problem and not your partner; it’s the two of you against the problem, not you two against each other.
- Be aware of your tone of voice
With these few points of mine, I hope that I have been able to convince and not confuse you that with effective communication, your relationship is well on its way to being on the meeting agenda of
your village people (Inside joke).
Ire o! (Bye)
